How to React to Things Out of Your Control

With so much in life so clearly out of our control, how can we use the time we have, and the one thing we have control of – which is how we react to the things not in our control – to feel stronger, more resilient and more capable?

Everything we experience – even things we experienced in the past – have meaning and impact on us because of the frame we see them through. This is the one thing truly within our control – the frame we choose to put around the picture of our current (and past) life experience.

The two things in life you are in total control over are your attitude and your effort.

Allison Maslan

Will we see this time as one of fear and dread, one of hopelessness and struggle where we felt like we were drowning, and no one cared?

Or will we see ourselves as powerfully facing our challenges, rising to meet each day to our best ability, doing what we can to help and support each other?

I guess it feels like both depending on the day. But I know we will more often choose the latter – because “we are braver than we believe, stronger than we seem, and smarter than we think.”

A.A. Milne

The Greatest Freedom is the Freedom of Choice – “Destiny is no matter of chance.  It is a matter of choice:  It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.”

William Jennings Bryant

Recharge – take time for yourself i.e. mini vacations or road trips; meditate; exercise; eat healthy; try a new recipe with family/friends; socialize (virtual or distance with family and friends).  Below is some more information on meditation:

Meditate – More and more people are using apps like Headspace, Calm, and Insight Timer to learn how to meditate and incorporate that habit into their lives. If you haven’t tried meditation yet, the pandemic is an excellent time to start. In addition to giving your fight or flight response a rest, it’s a great way to observe your thinking patterns and random thoughts. You might think the goal of meditation is to not think, but most of the experts I’ve read, the goal is really to notice when you’re thinking. What I notice when I stop and meditate for 5 minutes or so is that thoughts that actually have a fair amount of value come up seemingly out of nowhere. When that happens, I write them down as soon as the closing chime rings on my app. 

Take heart. Stay strong. And continue to have hope, grace and love for yourself and those around you. ️

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